The beginner's guide to Kinky Sex!

So you want to add a little eroticism into your sex life? Kink defines any unconventional sex acts. However, simply because you haven’t heard of them doesn’t mean you won’t enjoy them. From bdsm to role playing, there are many different schools of thought when it comes to seeking pleasure.

Kinky sex doesn’t look the same for everyone, so don’t be discouraged if the whip and cat suit don’t fit you. Exploring fetishes and kinky sex with your sex partner is about breaking out of your routine sex life to embark on a sexual adventure.

Here is our guide for spicing up your mundane sex life with some kinky and easy to try sex moves for you and your lover to take a stab at tonight. Wherever you stand on the scale from vanilla to the 50th shade of grey, we’ve got some kink for you!

Move No. 1 - Blindfolding your Lover

This is the most basic form of bdsm, but do not underestimate the power of such a small piece of cloth. Losing your sight is a form of sensory deprivation.

The eroticism stems from having to rely on senses one often takes for granted. A temporary loss in sight heightens the anticipation of touch, and changes the meaning of the sounds around you.

Using a blindfold with your partner is the gateway to a whole world of bondage where each act is about utilizing and restricting different parts of your sensory experiences, plus it’s cheap to recreate! Buy an official blindfold or be creative and use a scarf or tie.

If you want to take things up a notch, include some noise canceling headphones to further restrict your partner’s senses.

Move No. 2 - Have Sex in Public

If you’re afraid to go all the way, a great place to start can be in your own home with the windows open, in your car at night time, or even camping with nothing but a thin layer of mesh separating your naked bodies from the open air.

It’s exciting because it is considered naughty. Sex is something you’re supposed to keep secret from the world. There’s the adrenaline fueled thrill of slipping up and making too much noise, ultimately getting caught. Voyeurism is a fun way to explore your animalistic side. Just be careful and do some research about the legality of your location options!

Move No. 3 - Reversing Roles

Every relationship has a leader and a follower. If you usually are the one initiating foreplay and sex, ask your lover to switch things up for a change. Giving them a chance to take control for a change will allow you to submit and take what you have coming. It can be nice to let for once as your partner takes control.

On the other end of things, if it is you who usually takes the more subservient role in your sex, take control of the power you have with your lover. Scratching, hair pulling, and spanking are all fair game. Enjoy sex at your own pace and take control of your own pleasure.

Move No. 4 - Well Read is Well Sexed

While many couples have watched porn together, it is a less common practice to see a couple reading smut together. Romance novels are basically antique porn, and can often be far more tantalizing and thought provoking than their film blazen cousins.

Before 50 Shades of Grey, erotica had kind of fallen from the mainstream, but the series has reawakened the public hunger for sexy literature. Reading incredibly detailed accounts of sex can be quite motivational for most couples and often is full of new ideas.

Move No. 5 - Mutually Masturbate

Sure, this seems pretty straight forward, and exponentially more boring. However, if you really give yourself a partner to get in tune with your partner, being able to watch your partner pleasure themself is mind blowingly erotic.

Setting rules for eachother makes it even sexier, such as having to sit a certain distance apart, or not being able to pleasure each other until you’ve finished taking care of yourself. Consequentially, you may even discover a new trick to manually stimulating your mate.

Move No. 6 - Getting Involved With Others

Group sex and threesomes are certainly not for everyone, but that doesn’t mean that extramarital fantasies are totally out of the question.

After planning it beforehand, hitting on another man or woman at the bar while your s/o sits on your other side can give you a little boost in confidence while another person’s interest in you will get your date going.

If this is a little bit too much for you, dial the fantasy back a bit. You and your lover can explore new limits by playing out a scene in which one of you is trying to tempt the other to “cheat”.

Both options can give you a nice feel for stepping out of bounds without actually cheating. They can also be great ways to decide if test the waters for swinging.

It is about trying something new, but it starts with trust, respect, and patience. Now that you’ve got some ideas brewing in your head about what you’d like to try next time you get dirty, you need a sex partner who’s open minded and willing to try something new with you.

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Whatever kinky moves you decide to try, whether with a committed partner or your new lover, any healthy sex begins with communication, enthusiasm, and an open mind.