10 RULES FOR FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS AND NO STRING ATTACHED SEX

What is a Friend with Benefits you might ask? A Friend-With-Benefits provides you with all of the benefits or “booty” a traditional relationship possesses, and none of the drawbacks.

The word ‘friend’ can be misleading, as a “Friend-With-Benefits” was never your friend. This person was established as a FWB from the beginning, you don’t have to take them out for dinner or bring them gifts.

You and your secret lover agree from the beginning on frequency and content of visits and then erotically enhance each other’s lives.

To ensure the most discreet, safe, and satisfying encounters, here are our recommended rules and guidelines for an unforgettable Friends-With-Benefits rendez-vous.

1. Establish Guidelines.

This ensures you both enter the arrangement with the same priorities and same end goal. If either of you were secretly gaga over the other, this is never going to work.

Set up frequency of “dates”, what you expect from visits, and any boundaries or “no-no zones” either one of you have.

Discuss kinks, fantasies, and don’t stray to other topics. There is one objective here, and that’s an explosive encounter for the both of you.

2. Be Safe.

Use protection, birth control, safe-words, ‘the works’. It’s always better to be over prepared than ill-prepared.

Carry condoms with you, get regular STD screenings at least twice a year, if not after every new partner.

Don’t be afraid to ask about your potential lover’s sexual health, STDs, unplanned pregnancies and if they are currently having sex with anyone else. It is your right to know what you are dealing with so you can suitably determine whether or not to open yourself intimately to a person.

Using a combination of condoms, birth control, and communication, you can practice “safer sex” and protect yourself and your sexual partners.

3. Seriously, BE SAFE.

Safety measures must especially be made when deciding to meet anyone you find off the internet.

Initially, at least tell one other person who you trust that you are meeting a stranger. Come up with a “Safe Word” or phrase to say to clue them in on expecting you home soon or potential danger. Decide on a estimated time you should be arriving home, so they know when to start worrying.

Meet your potential partner in a public place for something simple such as coffee. If the meeting goes downhill, it is easy to politely excuse yourself and exit the situation.

4. Keep your FWB for when you’re wanting ‘benefits’.

Spending large amounts of time with an affair partner only increases the chances of someone you know discovering your secret relationship or either you or them developing a benefit-ruining case of “the feels”.

Don’t be too demure to kick them out when the dead is done either!

5. Don’t add your FWB on your social media.

Friending or following your courtesan on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or the like, only furthers to increase the likelihood that your affair will be exposed, one of you will catch a cold from the ‘love bug’, or seeing his/or her “single activities” could leave you green with envy.

On the flip side, posting selfies with your fuck buddy is only going to get people talking and eventually get you in one heap of virtually real trouble.

Don’t post statuses saying things like “what a wild night last night” if you told your s/o you were spending the night in.

Don’t be stupid - leave your sex life in bed.

6. Don’t introduce friends to your FWB.

This, just as the last suggestion, is pretty much common sense. Don’t take unnecessary risks bringing him to lunch with the girls if you know Suzy cannot keep her mouth shut when in a group of more than 2 people. What were you thinking?

While your friend is most certainly loyal, this situation becoming public will have no repercussions for them, and they therefore could much more easily accidentally let info slip to the wrong person.

Just don’t do it.

7. Don’t be FWB with a friend.

If you’re having sex with someone you’ve already spent a bunch of time with, there is a stronger possibility of finding yourself feeling something more than physical attraction. By choosing someone new, you can also ensure it’s someone neither you or your significant other know, to further ensure no guilt-tripped confessions as the affair moves on.

8. Don’t keep tabs on each other.

The less you know about the other’s life, the better. You aren’t dating, you’re casually hooking up. Don’t be trying to see who’s texting him or asking why he never returned your text.

The less you let yourself know about what he does when you aren’t together, the less you will worry about things. What’s important is what they’re accomplishing for you in the bedroom.

9. Keep your heart open.

One of the most important aspects of a mutually beneficial relationship is keeping things in perspective. You are having physical relations with this person, and you decided from the beginning you didn’t want to date this person.

If you are maintaining that title, you must cultivate new flirtations and friendships. In a no-strings-attached arrangement, you are open to meeting other people and moving on to new flings.

10. Have fun.

Don’t take this situation too seriously. It can be hard in this type of relationship to know where to draw the line, if at all. But the whole point of this mutually beneficial arrangement is to cut out all the b/s from dating and get straight to the good stuff.

There is no need for hurt feelings. If your Friend-With-Benefits doesn’t text back or can’t hang tonight, don’t get worked up, get a vibrator.

You also aren’t expected to be available to them 100% of the time, unless you really are that dtf.