THE KINKY SIDE OF CHEATING
Let’s skip over all those typical talking points about infidelity and get right to the point: cheating can be hot. Sure, it’s inherently kinky because of the societal taboo, but it also has a way of getting your heart pumping like few things can. Here’s what sets having an affair apart as a potential fetish, why it’s so appealing, and how it can fulfill sexual desires difficult (or impossible) to accomplish monogamously.
Sneaking Around
The thrill of getting caught, the willingness to be a little riskier (sex in a public bathroom, a parking lot, etc.), covering up all evidence before you get home. This is why the words “fling” and “affair,” common words for infidelity, are also synonymous with “party.” The wild excitement and reckless abandon combine into a perfect storm of “this should feel wrong but it feels so right.”
Sharing a Secret
How often is it that a couple can date privately and have making it public off the table from the start? It’s one thing to share a secret, it’s another to be each other’s secret. When you’re together, you can escape to your personal island no matter where you’re meeting. And when you’re apart, you know that the fewer people who know, the better. That level of secrecy is foreplay in and of itself.
Things Stay Fresh
Sometimes, pursuing a relationship outside of your marriage can come down to a stale home environment, one where new experiences, shared adventures, or deep talks are a thing of the past. With someone new, you reclaim that feeling of being wanted, all while getting excited about seeing another person again. Basically, it’s dating, but with a lot less pressure.
The Validation of Multiple Partners
Who doesn’t love feeling wanted? Now double that feeling (or get it back for the first time in a long time). The benefit of seeing more than one person is that it’s hard not to feel proud of accomplishing and maintaining multiple, mutually-beneficial relationships. Millions of people don’t even get one. Plus, according to science, human beings are “mildly polygynous,” meaning denying ourselves various partners is debatably unnatural.
The Modern Accessibility
Pursuing the kink of cheating doesn’t require any effort anymore. No longer are hotel bars or risky office romances necessary. With places like Victoria Milan, Europe’s most popular affair site, you can create a profile and start connecting with likeminded people who are actively pursuing this overlooked (and underrated) fetish. But fair warning: joining may be easy, but going back to monogamy is hard.
