Ever wondered why so many young college students aspire to become Sugar babies? Many would argue that the distinction between Sugar babies and glorified escorts are slim. Both meet with men or women to offer company in return of profit.
However, a rich and senior gentleman accompanied by a beautiful woman enrichened by his offerings is not something we perceive as prostitution or selling one’s self for money, and has been part of how humans form relationships as far as we can look back with modern perspectives.
So how did one term become so stigmatized?
And where do we draw the line between Escorts, Prostitutes, Gold diggers, Sugar Babies and just normal women?
As a sex writer and relationship expert I would argue that the irregularities lie with the consumer and the Terms & Conditions of the initial agreement. Let me clarify;
Definition of a Sugar daddy as explained by dictionary.com:
"A wealthy, middle-aged man who spends freely on a young woman in return for her companionship or intimacy." First recorded in 1915.
The Sugar daddy appeal becomes intelligible when undressing your average New York Sugar daddy; 42 years old with an average income of $524,127. He also antes up shockingly $5,692 per month on his Sugar babies! (Huffington Post)
I would think this description is a lesser suitable fit to the average Escort & Prostitution clientele.
Sugar daddy – Sugar baby Terms & Conditions
The status of the relationship is mutual in the sense that both have equal rights to start and end the relationship. Looking from a Sugar daddies’ perspective; meeting with a Sugar baby does not vow sexual favours unless agreed to beforehand.
However, the dynamic often leads to sexual tension due to evolution being a governing and inescapable force. Men - look for attractive women, with six features specifically (wide hips, slim waste, long thick hair), in order to analyse which female specimen would best carry forth his offspring. Women - have needed men through time for their hunting skills, later translated to profitmaking abilities. When a match is made the dance of the paradoxes emanates. It is therefore natural to expect certain urges to arise, hopefully, in both parties involved.
Depending on the nature of the specific encounter, some might choose to sleep in separate rooms when traveling to weekend engagements, etc., and might never enjoy anything but the glorious company of their Sugar baby. Sex in a Sugar relationship is therefore not only voluntary, it is less expected than in a normal relationship.
Contrary to common belief, Sugar babies and Sugar daddies do not testament to bad parent/daughter relationships across the globe. It is simply an adaptation of the most common human correlation trough time, and only over-exited millennials confuse natural gain and beneficial alliances with disguised prostitution.