Profile pictures are a key element of your profile, in fact they are the MOST important part of your profile. Profiles with public pictures have a response rate +200% greater than those without and a first message rate over 500% higher.

So how does someone who wants to remain discreet and anonymous upload an engaging and attractive profile picture?

Get creative ! Everyone of us has features they are proud of and features they are not so proud of so make sure to highlight your best features whether it be your physique, sense of style, eyes, smile, or lifestyle. In fact you might not even be aware of what your best features even are!

An online polling of women in North America and Europe found that one of the features that women are most attracted to is forearms . There are even entire online communities dedicated to "forearm porn" (I'm not joking). So roll up those sleeves and show them off. And if your forearms are not up to par then don your best " male lingerie".

When asked what the male equivalent of lingerie was women overwhelmingly responded with "a well fitted suit" so suit up gentlemen and put your best "face" forward.

When asked what the male equivalent of lingerie was women overwhelmingly responded with "a well fitted suit" so suit up gentlemen and put your best "face" forward. A well fitting suit is so appealing to women that even users who have cropped or blurred their faces have seen their profile views and messages increase dramatically. Back and butt. A strong back subconsciously draws a woman's mind to imagining what it would be like to wrap her arms around and a nice butt.... well you get the idea. Showing off your back/butt is a great way to entice women while remaining discreet. Find your best fitting pair of trousers, TASTEFULLY show off your backside, and watch women message you curious to see if the front is as hot as the back.

Let your user name do the talking for you. When women scroll through their search results they see only your profile picture and your user name so make your name count!
Try to be concise but descriptive in your username.

Example: neighborhood + profession/hobby = YorkvilleAviator

Immediately someone scrolling through profiles will know where in the city your located and will have some insight into your profession/ interests. This user is located in a posh part of town and is interested in aviation, he sounds like a good person to join the mile high club with ;)

Example: description + kink = TallDom

In two seconds women will know that your tall (what woman doesn't love a tall man) and sexually dominate. A name like this is sure to attract submissive women or even just women looking to live out their 50 Shades of Grey fantasy.

Whether your attached, or married, or single women on Victoria Milan want to know you're discreet and you value/respect both your discretion and hers. The last thing a woman wants on Victoria Milan is a someone who is clingy or mistakes a one night stand for an ongoing relationship.

Some women are on Victoria Milan looking for an affair, Some are in open relationships, some are looking for a quick hookup, and some, like me, just find the idea of hooking up with an older married man super kinky ;)

but whatever their reason for using Victoria Milan they all want to know their discretion is assured!
Consider, especially if you're single, putting something in your first message that highlights this or even better in your profile description!

Here are some examples that personally put me more at ease in the past:

This is the absolute best part of Victoria Milan ; the users are much more direct, upfront, and honest about what they are looking for and perhaps more importantly, what they are not looking for.

Your profile description is the best place to put this.

You will notice that unlike many traditional dating sites women on Victoria Milan state directly and clearly on their profile what they are seeking and what they are not so don't be afraid to do that same.

Here is an example of one users profile I loved!

"Seeking a fit and friendly partner in crime for a short term fling, open to long-term if the chemistry is right"

However this is a two way street, if you're going to be direct and open about what you're seeking then take the time to read her profile before messaging her to make sure you're both on the "same page".

This is a big one. Women, especially those who have been attached for a long time, do not feel comfortable making that first move so it's crucial than you can.

Remember approach is everything!

Pre written messages are your best bet. Take some time and write out a good introduction message but remember leave room to add personal details about the person you're messaging and DON'T SPAM women with the same unoriginal introduction message, not only does it not work it's annoying.

Here is an example of a good introduction message:

The subtext of this message is:

Remember to keep it light hearted and take the opportunity to make a joke even if it is at your expense and display that you've actually read her profile. With a message like this your response rate is sure to be better than 99% of the messages she's gotten.

This is my favorite part of Victoria Milan; requesting and receiving access to a guys private gallery and sharing mine.

Your private gallery is where you keep your more risqué photos. You can share them with others and restrict access at anytime.

Remember to KEEP THEM TASTEFUL! I cannot tell you how many times I've gotten along great on chat with a guy and loved his profile picture only to find out his private gallery was nothing but tasteless dick pic's!

There is a time and a place for dick pic's and time is when/if I ask you explicitly for them, until then don't even bother it's a sure fire way to turn me, and most any girl, off.

I took the time to put on lingerie and take sexy pictures of myself for my private gallery the least you can do is not have a barrage of poorly lit dick pic's in your gallery!

If you can, include a face picture. Remember you can always restrict access to your private gallery after. If not then take this is where you should keep your pic's that are a bit too sexy for a public profile picture.

I want to see your bare back, I want to see something kinky, I want to see you in your sweaty soccer uniform, I want seductive pic's that get my imagination running wild!

You're nervous and excited and ready to meet up so what's the best way to do this you ask?

Firstly, do not communicate off the site before meeting! I met a charming guy for coffee but before we met he asked for my phone number and we chatted via text. We met for coffee and he mentioned we went to the same University (although years apart) despite me never mentioning which university I attended...

Turns out he looked me up on Facebook using my phone number!! It was innocent at the time but it was a very real reminder that Victoria Milan has world class security and discretion features in place for a reason. Imagine what a disaster it would be to have you're affair partner add you as a friend on Facebook or be texting you at all hours of the night...

Secondly, in my experience, I have always found it best to pick a neutral but public place to meet.

Somewhere neither of you work or live so you don't accidentally run into someone you might know and somewhere public so you know you're both safe.

For a first meeting I like to keep it simple and grab a coffee or tea.
It's in a public place so she will know she is safe and it will put her mind at ease, It's only a coffee so if by chance you do see someone you know you're "just grabbing coffee with a co-worker/ friend", and its short!

If you meet up and realize that there just isn't any chemistry then no big deal its only a coffee, in 15 minutes you can be on your way and if things are going great you can stick around or head to a bar to grab and drink or a hotel if things are going really well ;)

So there it is, from A - Z my personal tips for being successful on Victoria Milan. Start putting some or all of these tips into practice and I guarantee you be ten (or at least six) steps ahead of the competition .