There is always escorts available. That’s not a story to brag about Monday at work. I have never really heard a mate properly big up the escort he slept with Saturday. That’s a rather more discreet high-five in that case!
So, how do you get past this and start approaching real women? The good thing about real women is that they are just as insecure as real men. They have things to be nervous about too; flaws, weirdo tendencies, acid reflux, the list continues I’m sure. Therefore, my tip number one will come as no surprise:
Relax Completely
This is nothing to get anxious about my friend. Relax, have a pint and remember that you are the beeswax. You have the same to offer most others do, regardless of your aging signs. Women are no scarier than you make them in your paranoid mind.
Take It Easy, Take It Slow
First you should pick a couple of women that tickles your fancy. Don’t focus too much on one though, it’s better to target an area where you see some potentials. Study the women in this area, are they dancing? Having a cigarette? Make sure it’s a natural approach, and anything from “Cheers” to “Nice shoes” are better than your standard, cheesy pick-up line.
Don’t Be Too Aggressive
Remember that some chasing is good for everyone and can be the deciding factor for women and men alike. No one likes to get it too easily, so make sure the ladies have to impress you too. Let the woman lead your level of directness; if she is very flirty straight from the get go then chances are using a more aggressive approach can bring in the results.
Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously
Plan backfired? Don’t worry about it – the ladies will come. Besides, women get picked up all the time, so they don’t remember your sleazy lines anyway, no need to feel embarrassed. Remember that you only need one “yes” and every “no” ups your chances statistically, so lean back and let science drag you closer.
Women Love Positive Feedback
It is very important to complement the ladies. With precautions, off course, based on tip number 3. I notice that women often appreciate compliments more so than being good at receiving them. Their reaction might not be what you hoped for initially, but you can usually pick up a change in their body language towards you if you pay attention. And make sure you make her feel SEXY, if you wish to have sex with her that is!
Be Honest
There are enough scammers out there, and I promise you; you earn absolutely NOTHING from deceiving people. Don’t lie about who you are. About what you like. About what you want from her. If you want commitment free sex only, then it will always benefit you to be honest about that. You don’t have to be extremely direct about everything, but make sure she knows what you want before she follows you home. It saves you a lot of awkward moments and is a way to guarantee that you more likely get what you want for the night. This way you will only go home with someone who is either equally interested in carefree sex, or a liar.
OK, these are very simple, yet bulletproof tips to get that confidence rising. Remember, real women are just escorts with a different job, nothing scary about that, right?
