The perfect lover has a beard, according to women from 22 countries
We have surveyed 9,127 of our male and female members from 22 countries to discover exactly which qualities and attributes make someone the perfect lover.
There’s a clear divide between the male and female opinions. The newly released results show that 62% of women value personality over looks, while for men, beauty only has to be skin-deep with 67% saying appearance is what matters most in the perfect lover.
The majority of men agree that their perfect lover should have long hair, but are divided on body shape with 39% saying they prefer a curvaceous lady, while 40% want their lovers to have a slim build. Other popular physical attributes include having beautiful eyes and being tall. Dress sense is the least important factor, with only 11% saying it matters.
For men, the perfect lover is kind, funny and youthful – having a mature personality is unpopular with just 3.9% of votes.
The perfect male lover is tall, elegantly dressed and has smouldering eyes. Most importantly, he should have a sense of humour, and be kind and romantic. Apparently, he should have a beard or moustache over being clean-shaven with 26% of ladies saying they prefer facial hair to a smooth face (9%).
Founder and CEO of Victoria Milan, Sigurd Vedal, said the perfect lover could be the opposite of what your life partner looks like.
“Having an affair with a lover is a way to live out your fantasies, and have things that you don’t find at home. While men imagine themselves with a bombshell with long hair, women are fantasising about an elegant, stylish gentleman with a beard. The perfect lover doesn’t have to have the qualities you look for in a life partner – they need to be someone you can have a fantastic adult adventure with,” Mr Vedal said.
SURVEY RESULTS
9,127 male and female members of Victoria Milan from 22 countries polled*
**Female Questionnaire:** | |
**What is more important in a lover: appearance or personality?** | |
Personality | 62.4 |
Appearance | 34.2 |
Undecided | 3.4 |
**What does the perfect lover look like? (Multiple-choice)** | |
Tall | 55.4 |
Elegantly dressed | 51.4 |
Smouldering eyes | 42.6 |
Athletic | 39.8 |
Medium size build | 33.5 |
Dresses youthfully | 28.7 |
Wears beard/moustache | 26.4 |
Muscular | 12.5 |
Shaven | 9.2 |
**What personality qualities are most important in a lover? (multiple-choice)** | |
Fun/has a sense of humour | 78.2 |
Kind | 64.2 |
Romantic | 61.4 |
Empathic | 48.1 |
Generous | 36 |
Adventurous | 34.5 |
Youthful | 29.4 |
Reliable | 25.4 |
Mature | 24.2 |
Intelligent | 18.1 |
Impulsive | 6.8 |
**Male Questionnaire:** | |
**Which is more important: appearance or personality?** | |
Appearance | 67.4 |
Personality | 29.6 |
Undecided | 3 |
**What does the perfect mistress look like? (multiple-choice)** | |
Long hair | 41.2 |
Slim | 40.2 |
Curvaceous | 38.6 |
Beautiful eyes | 34.1 |
Tall | 29.6 |
Petite | 25.2 |
Fit | 23.2 |
Short Hair | 15.8 |
Elegant fashion style | 11.4 |
**What personality qualities are most important in a mistress? (multiple-choice)** | |
Kind | 63.4 |
Funny/has a sense of humour | 62.1 |
Youthful | 46.8 |
Adventurous | 43.2 |
Empathic | 39.8 |
Reliable | 37.8 |
Romantic | 18.9 |
Intelligent | 18.7 |
Impulsive | 9.4 |
Generous | 6.2 |
Mature | 3.9 |
*Countries included in the study: Australia, Belgium, South Africa, Mexico, Peru, Brazil, Germany, Poland, Switzerland, Slovakia, France, Portugal, New Zealand, Argentina, Spain, Netherlands, Ireland, Greece, Austria, Italy, United Kingdom and Czech Republic.